‘Do you know how I
got these scars?’ Thrice the Joker asks.
No one knows how he got
his laughing scars. Instead he throws us off with three ridiculous theories, confusing
us with his story each time he tells it, making up different things about it. But
the bottom line is the Dark Knight faults his evil father and hates him with his
mean smiles (and no doubt hates why he ended up like him). His scars are the constant
reminder—and anyone else who’s not scared of his distressing face.
I too hated my
father! Hate! Hate! Hate! I say those three words, or rather;
thrice repeat one word. You
would if he raped your mother and you were the first fruit of that forced union.
He had been sniffing
up my mother, then a fourteen year old lass, and he almost sixteen. But the watchful
eyes of the elders kept his depraved pursuit in check. Yet, the day of the dog
beckoned one afternoon when he had taken the cows to the river for a drink while
my maiden ma was drawing water. The beast pounced on the beauty, dragging her
to his underbrush burrow and brutally breaking both her pot and purity.
Being the eldest son
of Mukasa, the chief village elder, the scandal was downplayed and a few goats ransomed
to my grandfather as tradition demanded. Instituted when feminist peahens were
still eggs, the patriarchic culture was rigidly unquestioned.
Two moons later
though, evidence in the form of pregnancy proclaimed itself in my ma’s belly—the
pro-choice activists not yet hatched—and elders sat once again under the muted murembe
tree, and decided to add a further number of cows to discharge the honourable thing
that went down as one of the swiftest weddings in the history of our village. Saving
face for the village whose moral marking scheme—before the seedy stain—smelled
sweeter than the air in the kingdom of heaven. This type of marriage, the
elders knew well, was a necessary village evil and could only be exceeded by
the burning of a witches’ house.
Her honour and
dignity severely injured, my ma never willingly shared the fruits of the
matrimonial bed, cursing every time ‘you plucked my unripe self’ never to resist or assist his advances; that though
she had not forgiven him, she had chosen silence as her conspirator. And after my birth—a game of
life I was forced to partake—she resigned herself, never adding more children
into the village population.
We wondered why. The
drunks especially who spent most of their eternity with my father in the drinking
dens said she flushed his seeds out of her womb. Others insisted instead it was
the work of a witch. Whatever the case, she had
become the reservoir of years of bitterness for being plucked and kidnapped
from her adolescent innocence, and sentenced to being a wife in a village where
most words were deaf to the tongue of a woman. The elders had handed her a
mother’s manual and forced her to study it in the bathroom as orientation to
becoming a woman.
Instead
of studying the guide, her psychological scars flew from the frying pan to the
fire when started cutting and collecting all the newspaper stories that she read
dutifully—the accounts of women who had been raped, aborted and abandoned fetuses,
wives who had miscarried, and cases of corrective rape to convert wo(men) to be
heterosexual (and other unprintable taboo subjects that were intolerant to
tradition). She shocked me once when she condemned and buried a kilo of red meat
which Wa Ka-knife the butcher had wrapped in a newspaper that had a rape story.
‘The flesh and blood in the meat reminds me of my rape.’ She dismissed my pleas.
She
wore my grandmother’s wedding dress and off she went behind the garden to bury them
under a murembe tree, but not before mourning for these victims, reciting a
dirge then circling the tree and hugging it passionately until she was tired.
Finally when spent (making love to the tree, as I suspected), she went to a
deep sleep in the fresh mound of red earth that made her happy—some moment of
Freud’s psychoanalysis!
Problems she kept
bottling up in her mind also exploded in different dimensions; in one or other outburst that were never talked about
much—a quiet curse—a succession of psychological sickness: psychosis, neurosis,
and other personality disorders attacked
her and according to the medicine man,
his herbs couldn’t cure the never seen before illnesses. If you thought that the passage
of time healed, then you were mistaken; it builds up as a suppressed fart! When
maladies lodged inside your yawning self, none can change them. My mom’s misery was herculean and only Hercules’
broom could sweep every filthy thing she despised out of her life.
While the village celebrated marriage or initiation
ceremonies and dances, she instead spent her time in the surrealistic ranks of
Brooks, reciting, performing her Mother meta-narrative ode:
‘Abortions won’t
let you forget
You remember the children you got that
you did not get
The damp small pulps with a little or
with no hair
The singers and workers that never
handled the air
You will never neglect or beat
…or silence or buy with a sweet.’
Gloomy days grew worse and worse
as nuptial years wore on; she, growing an anger that never cooled with age but burn
even more by fuels of rage. While he, used to soothe himself, when her bitter
tongue drove him from home, in the local booze den gathering around aged sages,
rumour analysts and other idle village fools while drinking busaa. They’ll sit under
the murembe all day, talking listlessly over village gossip or disputing tired
stories about nothing. As they held their sessions, an old transistor radio
kept them updated, but then they went into ignorant analysis and drowned its
news with their loud debates while they were sober and when drunk, danced
themselves silly to Congolese music coming from its rusty speakers. This intelligent
man, forced to drink nonstop to spend time with his fools!
Installed
as the chief village headman, after
my grandfather’s demise, my father
would force his bully self into homes, markets and every village space, helping
himself to whatever he liked. With his security goons, he patrolled in full regalia,
breaking the earth with his boots, breaking more young hearts, breaking outrageous
records, and no one stood up to him. He
was mad; many women called him a psychopath with a memory for a beautiful face
like those video games that never forgot your score. To say that he summoned
them later for his ritual romping would be an understatement—he imposed his
way!
For me the victim, this curious business, heralding
my debased birth, marked me for a unique kind of ill luck, like a tumour that
turned malignant. I never chose to be a son of
a rapist and what one was forced into, was neither a feat nor a failure. Self-denial
in being born illegitimate was as silly as to boast about it. I just had to
accept this unchosen fate as any Oedipus and live unhappily at my Colonus. This fate of an unfortunate
child whose first tooth turned out decayed!
Who’d wear a cheery smile every morning but to only observe
his likeness in the mirror reflecting the sins of his father? But that was what
life offered me in the way of being a man, that good wombs bore bad sons, and I
took it into my stride, clutching my rotten history with both hands. I had put
up with him for fourteen years, and the only way I endured him was by staying
away from him. Not only did I hate meeting him, but also avoided remembering him
unless forced to—as force was his nature.
And even within those short inevitable meetings,
arguments marked our
discourse and conjured up past disputes that fanned more quarrels. The rare seasons
of peace which still came sometimes were the motels where we dined for a while before
setting out again into a road of masked hostility that was slowed down by our mutual
coldness. This coldness should have troubled me, but trouble being my middle
name, I considered the situation normal.
Life rotated intolerably
in that volatile world of eternal conflict and I struggled to liberate myself
more and more from those clutches of ugliness and pacify them in a facade of decency
and modesty, attaining it by limiting my time at home, and when compelled to,
camouflaged my position in the company of my mates whose presence my father
despised anyway.
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